When couples argue, it’s not always about big things like infidelity or childcare. The disagreements may be about relatively trivial things too, like chores and social media.
- Couples fight about household chores because one person feels they take on most of the work.
- Couples fight when one partner prioritizes work over the relationship.
- Couples sometimes argue over abuse/addiction issues.
- After couples have children, they often argue about not spending enough time with one another.
- Couples fight if there is too little (or too much) sex.
- Younger couples get frustrated with their partner’s overuse of social media.
- Fights about money frequently come up later in a relationship.
Generally, the real problem isn’t so much about the issue itself as it is about a lack of communication or poor communication skills. For example, if you’re someone who is insecure about yourself or the relationship, that might mean that the minute your partner brings something up, your automatic response is to get very defensive. You may respond by having a defensive stance, so no matter what you’re arguing about, things can quickly escalate into a fight.
If you can learn to communicate better, you can get through these issues in a way that can actually bring you closer together. However, if you can’t communicate well, it makes things worse and will eat away at your relationship. The bottom line: If you’re arguing over and over about the same thing, it may be time to see a couples counselor.